“Avicii Girl” – Another Case of Sexism and Slut Shaming

If any of you took to Twitter, Facebook or Instagram yesterday morning you’ll have seen what was probably the most popular picture taken from Avicii. Shared on the likes of “The Lad Bible” and by the infamous “Dublin Girlo” was a picture of a girl and a boy at the concert, engaging in a sex act. As per usual, it was the girl getting slated, with comments calling her a slut, saying she was an example of girls going downhill in society, and all sorts of nasty insults. I wrote a blog post befss6ore about “slut shaming” which you can read here: “She’s Such a Slut” , but felt it was necessary to revisit the topic because I still have so much to say after this incident.

Before I start I’d like to say that by no means do I condone this type of behaviour, public indecency isn’t something that anyone wants to see at a concert and it’s also illegal. But it’s illegal for both of them, not just the girl, and neither of them should have done it.

First of all I’d like to point out the amount of very young girls that were at the concert. Although it was an over 18’s event, I spoke to a few girls who were underage and seen a lot more who looked extremely young. Who’s to say that the girl in the picture isn’t underage? If she, or he, is under the age of 18, that is a picture of a child/children engaging in a sex act and anyone who shares it or uploads it to a social media site could get into a lot of trouble for it.

ss2I’d like to ask the question, have you ever made a drunken mistake? 99% of people reading this will say yes, I have. Have you ever woken up with crippling fear over what you’ve done the night before, having had too much to drink? Again, the answer is probably yes. We’ve all done stupid things after getting ourselves into a drunken state, it happens to everyone. But what if your drunken mistake had been caught on camera, and uploaded to social media for the world to see? Imagine how horrified and sick and anxious you’d feel. Why would anyone want to inflict that on a young girl? I highly doubt she woke up the next morning, scrolled through Facebook and thought “Wow, I’m so proud of that.”ss1

Making my main point here, why is it always the girl who gets shamed? It was “Slane Girl” and “Avicii Girl” when there were boys in both of the pictures. “Slane Girl” was performing a sex act on the boy, and she got the blame. “Avicii Girl” was having a sex act performed on her, yet still, she also got the blame. The boy is deemed a hero and the girl called a whore, and this kind of blatant sexism is not on. They both did a silly thing, and it’s unfair for the girl to get the blame. And have we all forgotten that after the “Slane Girl” incident, the girl had to be hospitalised?

Although Facebook have removed the majority of the pictures, there’s still some uploaded on Twitter. I spoke with a man who had the photograph on his account, trying to make the above points in 140 characters. He responded by making a series of points that made little to no sense.

ss3Tweet no. 1: “Get a grip she shouldn’t be spreading her legs in a park with thousands of people mind ur own business what I post”. The problem with this is that again, he focused on the girl and not the boy. He also told me to mind my own business, even though his Twitter page was on a public setting. Clearly, he’d uploaded the picture in the hope of getting some retweets and attention.

Tweet no. 2: “It’s always girls doing stuff like this at concerts”. This one made absolutely no sense because for one, it’s the boy doing the “doing” in the photograph from Avicii. It’s not two girls doing it to each other, and it’s not a girl doing it to herself. It is a boy and a girl engaging in a sex act, together, so it can’t just be the girl who gets the blame.

Tweet no. 3: “Don’t be snapping just cause it didn’t happen to you #feedthepony”. Well, this one’s kind of self-explanatory isn’t it? The life of a girl, being ridiculed if you have sex, and also being ridiculed if you don’t.

Another favourite tweet of mine was this: “Irritates me that people think “slut shaming” is a bad thing. I’m sorry if your a dirty slut you SHOULD be ashamed. #slutshaming #aviciigirl”. As can be seen in the paragraph above, girlsss4 will be shamed whether or not they have sex. There is no such thing as a “slut”, and as long as both you and your partner give consent to what is happening, you should not be ashamed. If you have sex too young you’re deemed a “slut”, if you engage in a sex act with somebody who you’re not going out with you’re deemed a “slut”, if you kiss too many boys you’re deemed a “slut”. It’s a word that has no proper meaning and is just thrown around loosely to insult females.

On a final note, I’d like to ask you to think before you share, like or upload indecent pictures like this in the future. That girl is somebodies daughter, sister, cousin, best friend. She is a real person with real feelings, and doesn’t deserve the backlash she’ll get from making a mistake. If you knew this girl, it would be very easy to recognise her in the picture. This is something that could easily happen to anyone, so please keep that in mind before you start to slut-shame.

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4 thoughts on ““Avicii Girl” – Another Case of Sexism and Slut Shaming

  1. Excellent post! I’m so so glad there are writers out there like you who are willing to speak up for girls in these situations!

    • Thank you! It’s an issue that needs to be tackled head on, and it’s only going to get better if we continue to talk about it.. I think slut-shaming is something that effects every girl at some point, whether you kissed somebody’s ex boyfriend or just kissed “too many” guys, and it’s really not on!

  2. I completely agree with what you’re saying but I don’t think you should comment on this situation as much as you have because it’s giving the situation more attention than it deserves and then more people will end up looking for/seeing the photo when really we should ignore it so that the girl can get on with her life without all of this unnecessary attention. Like I don’t think I would have heard about it if it wasn’t for your posts.

    • That’s fair enough and I completely get where you were coming from, but I just felt that because people were commenting on it in a negative light already that somebody needed to be frank about the situation in an attempt to maybe stop others from being so narrow minded about it. I do get what you mean though.

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